“A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth–that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love.” – Viktor Frankl
Does frequent conflict in my relationship mean we have reached the point of no return?
No! Loving someone and sustaining this love is a sometimes very difficult, but very rewarding and empowering thing. And love is central to the human experience. New chapters in your relationship can happen! Conflict is inevitable in any relationship; it is how we approach and resolve this conflict—and what we learn from it—that is essential to a relationship’s success over time.
When under stress, many couples find themselves locked in dysfunctional patterns of interacting with each other that they don’t know how to break. These patterns will lead to increased opposition that in turn undermines connection. Couples therapy can help you break those patterns and lead to increased affection, trust, communication, respect, and understanding between you and your partner.
I’ve helped many couples in all sorts of different relationships with the following issues:
- Intimacy
- Parenting
- Infidelity
- Finances
- Communication
- Life Transitions
- Assertiveness
- Mental Health
- Differing Values
- Stepparent
- Grief and Loss
- Premarital
A few cornerstones of how I will be thinking about your relationship:
- How family-of-origin and previous relationship influences affect current and past behaviors in your relationship.
- The emotional, cognitive, and behavioral components of how you both interact with one another.
- How the above factors create patterns that perpetuate your current problems.
- How to create new patterns which alleviate your current problems.
I will help you both:
- Slow down the process of conflict and diminish anxiety.
- Stand outside yourselves in the conflict to develop more empathy for each other. This will help you experience yourself and your partner differently than before.
- Take more personal responsibility and accountability of the ways that you have (perhaps unknowingly) contributed to painful patterns in the relationship.
- Become more aligned with your needs and appreciative of the needs of your partner so that you can stop arguing over who is right and who is wrong and start getting both of your needs met by each other.
- Feel, think, and act in productive ways that build connection and love in your relationship!
Finding affordable, effective couples therapy near you in Denver doesn’t need to be difficult. Located in Denver, just east of Cherry Creek and Glendale, Scott Kohner MSW, LCSW has helped both couples and individuals resolve conflicts and find new meanings in their relationships. Colorado couples counseling is something that can help you discover new perspectives and gain understanding with your partner. If you’re in search of compassionate and effective couples therapy therapy, please don’t hesitate to reach out today so we can setup an appointment.